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THE URGE TO HELP OTHERS

One thing that goes hand in hand with having an ethical lifestyle is also having the urge to do good things for other people. When I was in Uni, I worked in the students’ union for 6 years which exposed me to some very active political advocates who lived to help others. During my years in this world, what became apparent was how people’s urge to do good for others sometimes seemed over bearing for the person who was in need as the people helping always seemed to do more than was necessary for the person asking for help.

In fact most of the time what I noticed was that because the helper put in so much effort, when their efforts were not rewarded with an equal measure of appreciation, it was very obvious how disappointed they became.

the urge to help others

It is a nice feeling to be in a position to help others so it is important to be mindful when you are offering help and not offer much more than someone needs. When we offer more than someone needs we also create a problem because it leaves the person feeling more indebted and it can even be irritating to give help or advice when someone does not need it.

  • What gives people the urge to help others is mostly an inspiration out of a pure heart. When you have the urge to help, it is important to listen to what the person in need is asking for so you provide just that.
  • It is important to remember that sometimes, when you haven’t lived through the circumstances someone is going through, it will be very hard to fully understand the pain they are going through. Be sympathetic, do not force yourself to be empathetic
  • Accept that you can not tell what is right for another person. Do not decide what will work best for another person unless they specifically ask you to put in suggestions.
  • Always remember that just because someone opens up to you about their problems, it does not necessarily mean that they need your advice or input.
  • It is okay if you don’t what to say someone when they tell you their problem.
  • It helps to share with someone your own experience if you have been through the struggle they are experiencing. Be conscious about your timing when you share your own experience. Do not cut the person off or force them to not talk about a situation they are struggling with.
  • Do not force people to share with you what they are not ready to share.